Amar o nosso próprio corpo pode ser uma tarefa difícil quando a mídia nos bombardeia com imagens e mensagens reforçando um padrão de beleza inalcançável. Como outras pessoas, Rachel Spencer decidiu usar as redes sociais para desconstruir essa obsessão pela perfeição – e, ao mesmo tempo, ajudar outras pessoas a reconstruírem sua autoestima.
A “instrutora de confiança e sucesso” – como ela mesma se denomina – abriu uma discussão sobre esse assunto de uma forma bem simples: com um antes de depois de biquíni. Mas não da forma convencional que se vê em revistas, reforçando o ideal da magreza.
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?REAL TALK WITH RACHEL? Mornin' babes! Guess what? I'm not always confident and I don't always love myself. Crazy, right?? Not. Don't let the cute pic fool you. This day was supposed to be so amazing. I was with my boyfriend and his family in beautiful Miami, I was in my favorite new sundress, and I had seen some breathtaking art that afternoon. But I had a secret. –>I had high anxiety right before and during this picture.<– You'd never know, right? I hide it well…and so do many many other sufferers. And that's the point, isn't it? You never know what someone is going through. I try my best to be all sunshine, rainbows, happiness and positivity. ☀️? But the truth of the matter is that I'm only human. This is my safe space. I want it to be a safe space for every single one of my followers. I struggle with confidence, body image, everything. And that's okay. But the difference is that I'm lucky enough to be healing. And I have to share my low times just as much–if not more–than my "highlight reel." Because I want to help other women who don't know how to move forward. Those who don't know which road take. Those who can't quite figure it all out by themselves. <–if this is you, it's OKAY. No shame in asking for help. Just because I'm a life coach doesn't mean I have life all figured out. I'm not going to try to make you perfect. I'm definitely NOT going to judge your struggle. But what I WILL do…is help you figure out how to get unstuck and out of the muddy mess. I don't believe in molding people into a cookie cutter image. We are all unique, which means we will all have different processes and learning experiences to go through. And if you want someone who has been there and has figured out a way out…THAT is who I am. That is how I can help. Thank you guys for being so wonderful. The community I have and the warm love you all bring is greater than I can ever explain. ??? P.s. Yes this pic is photoshopped to have a purple background. It looks pretty.
Se você comparar as duas fotos colocadas lado a lado na publicação feita por Rachel no Instagram, não notará uma drástica perda de peso entre a imagem da blogueira com 13 anos e a atual, com 26. Não há uma mudança física tão grande (é claro, sem considerar as mudanças que ocorrem naturalmente em período de 13 anos). O que mudou entre as duas fotos foi algo interno: a autoestima.
Na primeira imagem, com a legenda “baixa autoestima”, a Rachel adolescente cobre a sua barriga. Já na segunda, legendada como “rainha do amor próprio”, a blogueira aparece feliz de lingerie.
“Quem ensinou a menina jovem à esquerda a esconder a barriga dela antes de tirar fotos de biquíni? Quem ensinou a ela que com apenas 13 anos de idade, o pequeno corpo fofo dela não era digno de uma memória fotográfica?”, questionou Rachel na publicação. “Definitivamente não foram os pais dela; então quem foi?”.
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I've been fairly open about my journey, but if you haven't read about it yet, here's a #Repost from @theeverybodybeautystandard ❤️ ・・・ 4 years ago, I hated myself. I barely ate anything, went to the tanning salon, thought I needed to go on a bunch of juice cleanses, and I worked out 2-3 times a day. I was hurting my body in order for it to look good. I remember one time, I went to the gym for 3 hours after dinner because I felt guilty for eating a slice of pizza. I would get cramps from running so hard after eating, but I figured a little bit of pain didn't matter as long as I was burning calories. I thought that by changing myself on the outside, I would feel better about myself on the inside. I kept going and going, not because I loved myself, but because I wasn't happy with my results. I never starved myself, but I would always look in the mirror and see all of my imperfections staring back at me. So here I am 4 years later, feeling like I don't even know who that girl was. I have grown so much because I finally realized that self-love comes from within. I started telling myself how special I was and I began discovering my worth. My body no longer defines me and it never will again. The old me who cared so much about her looks was unhappy, and filled with hate. The girl I am now (the one who focuses on what's on the inside) is happy, healthy, and the most confident she's ever been in her life — even at her highest weight. So, moral of the story (if there is one), is that true beauty comes from within. Instead of transforming into my best body, I've transformed into my best self, and that's much more important to me. I see so many women trying to 'fix' themselves, but hopefully now you'll see that the true transformation happens within. Thank you girls for asking me to submit and letting me share my story ?? . . . #lifecoach #femaleempowerment #selflove #bodylove #confidence #fearless #imperfections #flawsandall #repostapp #motivation #gratitude #goals #newyork #miami #losangeles #chicago #london #positivity #loveyourself #women #girlpower #womenempoweringwomen #yougotthis #loveyourself #followyourdreams #success #bopo #bodypositive
A blogueira contou que os garotos praticavam bullying com ela por causa do seu peso. E, por isso, ela até mesmo evitava ir para a piscina. Uma situação que só piorou quando ela ficou um pouco mais velha e começou a perceber a cultura da dieta da mídia, que também a fez ver a celulite como algo ruim.
O processo de cultivar o amor próprio não foi rápido; Rachel ainda trabalha na sua autoconfiança. E ela incentiva outras mulheres a não terem vergonha de mostrar os seus corpos. “Coloquem aquele biquíni e sorriam. Não sintam a necessidade de deixar a opinião de outras pessoas arruinar memórias preciosas com a família e amigos”, ela disse. “Suas imperfeições contam uma história. Seu corpo é bonito. Você é bonita”.
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I've been sitting here trying to think of a good caption but this photo just makes me sad when I look at it. So how about I ask you a question: Who taught the young girl on the left to hide her tummy before taking pictures in a swimsuit❓ Who taught her that at only 13 years old, her chubby little body was unworthy of a photographic memory❓ It definitely wasn't her parents or family, so who was it? Well, did you know that this innocent young girl was bullied for her weight? Not by the girls. The girls were nice. But the boys…the boys were mean. From then on out, she never wanted to go to the pool, saw boys as a threat, cried to her teachers, etc etc. Things started to get better in middle school, but then came the media. *Knock Knock* Diet culture, fitness, cellulite cream–CELLULITE?? Why was a 13 year old worried about cellulite??? Because the media told her it was bad. That SHE was bad and needed to change. If you couldn't tell by now, the young girl was me. There's a big difference between the closed off, hiding, young girl on the left and the carefree, happy, open girl on the right. ❤️And that difference is self love.❤️ I taught it to myself. I had to. I had to find a way to be happy. The process wasn't quick. I'm still working on it at 26 years old. But I have a message for all the women who are much older and STILL feel ashamed to show their tummy at the pool: Don't be. Put on that bikini and smile. Don't feel the need to let other people's opinions ruin precious memories with your friends and family. Show your daughters what it's like to flaunt their flaws at the pool. No shame. Your imperfections tell a story. Your body is beautiful. You are BEAUTIFUL.