Jovem que era a ‘amiga gorda’ inspira pessoas a se aceitarem

Michelle Elman, de 23 anos, não tem vergonha do seu corpo

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Michelle Ellman, inspiração para outras pessoas

O corpo costuma ser a preocupação de muita gente, principalmente de quem costuma ser taxado de “gordo” por amigos, colegas, mídia e o restante da sociedade. Mas uma jovem mostra que toda essa neurose não passa de besteira.

A blogueira Michelle Elman, de 23 anos, inspira outras pessoas a se aceitarem mais. No blog Mindset for Life e também em seu Instagram, ela publica fotos e outros conteúdos que ajudam quem ainda se incomoda com o próprio corpo e quer se encaixar em padrões impostos.

TODAY IS MIRROR APPRECIATION DAY. Ok fine, that isn’t a thing but can it be pleassseee? ???????? I was scrolling through my phone and found a few selfies and it made me realise how long it’s been since I hated my reflection. It’s been a bloody long time since I used a mirror as a weapon. It’s been years since I was that girl who used them to check for weight gain, pulling at my skin, yanking my hips wishing they would disappear. That girl deserved so much love and I’m so happy that I can give it to her now. I now kinda love mirrors, in a way that it’s like seeing an old friend. Whether I’m in the most skin tight outfit I’ve ever worn whilst trying on skiing thermals or I’m in a sports bra and sweating it out, or completely naked (no picture for this one! ????), I’ll welcome my reflection any day because I’m ok with saying hi to me. ???????? There was a point where I would shy away from mirrors but now I’m in love. I look in the mirror and I see my life. I look at my body and this mother instinct perks up because I’m seriously protective of this body. This body has been through enough and I’m so proud of it for getting us through everything. So today is mirror appreciation day. Thank you for letting me see my smile, my emotions, my body. Thank you for reminding me where I come from with parts of my culture coming through. Thank you for helping me see my Chinese eyes that used to get mimicked, as beautiful. Thank you for helping me realise when they get small, I’m usually grinning my biggest grin and that’s what’s important. Thank you for helping me see my British unruly hair that used to get me in trouble at school, as beautiful. Thank you for helping me realise that it is symbolic of my personality, as opposed to something that needs to be tamed. Thank you for helping me see my Jewish bum and hips that I was told “would at least be good for childbearing”, as beautiful. Thank you for helping me be proud of having my grandma’s curves and realising that childbearing wasn’t the only positive to having this figure. Thank you to all mirrors everywhere for helping me get to know my body because as my phone case says it makes me SO FUCKING happy ???? #scarrednotscared

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Ela ficou conhecida por contar nas redes sociais como usou biquíni pela primeira vez na vida. Michelle contou que já passou por 15 cirurgias na barriga e que cresceu sob o estigma da “amiga gorda”.

“Ela é a única que fica à margem e nunca se junta. Ela é a única eternamente solteira e fica em silêncio enquanto todos os seus amigos discutem sua vida amorosa porque Deus não permita, se ela realmente encontrar um namorado, ela nunca ficaria confortável nua ou no quarto. Ela é a insegura, a que constantemente se queixa de seu corpo e fala sobre dietas”, escreveu ela no Instagram.

There’s a stereotype around being the “fat girl” in a friendship group. She’s the one who sits on the sidelines and never joins in. She’s the one perpetually single and sits silently while all her friends discuss their love life because god forbid, if she actually find a boyfriend, she would never be comfortable naked or in the bedroom. She’s the insecure one, the one constantly complaining about her body and talking about diets. I couldn’t call bullshit more on this stereotype. Since the age of 11, I have always been the “fat” friend but I have never been THAT girl. Even with all my insecurities around my scars, and my body in general, I was never the girl who sat inside – I refused to because of my pride and ego and my surgeries never let me be the person who missed out on life. The difference between now and then is that there’s no hesitation, there are no second thoughts and when my friend suggested jumping in the Fjord, I was all “Hell yeah!”. Before I would have said yes reluctantly, spent the time hiding as much of my body as possible until the last moment, definitely worn a top and definitely wouldn’t have taken photos, let alone been in them. Now, I’m the one suggesting photos, I was the first to whip off my top and the thought that my body was different wasn’t there. The fact that I know many girls, fat or skinny, would miss out on opportunities like this is what fuels my body positivity. Body positivity isn’t about being able to take underwear selfies, it’s about not letting your underwear or your swimsuit be the reason you aren’t taking part. And ultimately when you are around the right people, you won’t EVER feel like the “fat friend”. I don’t look at these pictures and see me as the odd one out. I look at the pictures and see the memories and the three bodies that we had fun in! #ScarredNotScared Swipe for a video of me high pitch screaming as I jump in!

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“Eu não poderia chamar esse estereótipo de outra coisa além de uma besteira”, afirmou.

“Eu não olho para essas fotos e me vejo como a estranha. Eu olho para as fotos e vejo as memórias e os três corpos que se divertiram!!”

Here’s to posting all the pictures we hate. My belly rolls were created for me when I was 7 years old… or at least that’s when I noticed them, and called them rolls. My rolls were created by surgeons, not by fat. They were created for my health, not in spite of it. They were created for my survival, not for my beauty. They don’t just exist when I sit but when I stand as well. They are how I experienced the stigma of being fat, before I was fat. They showed through my T-shirts and even my tankinis and whilst I could hide my scars, I couldn’t hide the rolls they created. The deepest cut is the one at the bottom which is the accumulation of 5 surgeries. That was created when I was 11 when I had to have an emergency operation. They had screwed up my previous operation and my intestines were leaking into my abdomen. My dad was called and told to fly over instantly, just in case I didn’t make it. And yet when I look at this scar, all I can think about is how my heart broke when I put on a T-shirt for the first time. I stared in the mirror and cried. I had already had 9 surgeries before that one, but this one couldn’t be hidden. “I’m never going to be beautiful again” I had been in a hospital for 3 months, and hadn’t been allowed to leave yet the day I was allowed to, I didn’t want to go in that t-shirt because I was embarrassed. I was so scared of looking fat, that I would rather stay in hospital another day, than leaving in that T-shirt. And that is what the fear of fat is about. THAT is why I fight the fear of fat. THAT is why I will always fight the fear of fat, whether I am fat or not. #scarrednotscared

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