Esta blogueira mostra que sexo e autoestima não conhecem padrões

No Instagram, esta blogueira americana mostra que o corpo nunca deve impedir alguém de ser feliz

Por: Redação

Nesse perfil do instagram aparecem os tipos mais fora do padrão possíveis, mas sempre com algo em comum: a sensualidade.

A blogueira Cheyenne

O sexo ainda é um tabu em uma sociedade conservadora como a nossa. E mesclado à ditadura do corpo perfeito, esse tema tende a ser ainda mais marginalizado.

Mas uma blogueira americana está aproveitando as lentas aberturas sobre esses dois assuntos para mostrar que sexo e autoestima estão muito acima de estereótipos ou padronizações.

☡TW: Bullying☡ One summer, my best friend’s brother had one of his friends text me. He was going to be a new football player at our school in fall, so we had never met. We started texting and calling each other every day. I became his girlfriend, and we would exchange intimate pictures. When I arrived the first day of school, the football team was congregated outside talking. I ran over to hug him, and he shoved me saying “What the fuck do you want ginger pig?!” I was so shocked, I couldn’t move. The rest of them pulled out their phones showing me the pictures and laughing. It was all a prank. They saw every picture and listened to every phone call. I wanted to die. The teachers were no help, because they were parents/coaches to these boys. Instead of defending me, they joined in mocking me. The principal would call me fatty, cow, and piglet. I had no one to turn to, and each day was more torturous than the last. They even created a MySpace page to call me names and mock my pictures. Finally I switched schools, but things didn’t change much. I remember my first day working on a group math assignment, and when I was struggling to solve a problem, another group member said, “Hurry up, you fucking moron.” I couldn’t escape. Later in the year, I was giving a speech in English class when everyone started looking at their phones and snickering at me. A guy had taken a picture of me and posted it on twitter with the caption, “SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU YEAST INFECTED GINGER CUNT” I was shattered again. Second grade – senior year I was bullied physically, verbally, and online constantly. Bullying is accepted as a normal school experience, but it fucking isn’t. It’s not harmless or funny. Children should feel safe enough to reach out to their parents and teachers. Citizens should feel safe enough to trust police to protect them. Politicians should be the ones setting good examples instead of leading the world into more hate. If you’re being bullied, speak to an authority, reach out for help, and don’t just ignore it. If you can’t stand up for yourself, find someone who can. No school, no job, no relationship, nothing is worth sacrificing your mental health and safety.

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Cheyenne utiliza o Instagram @goofy_ginger para inspirar outras mulheres a serem felizes com os seus corpos, contrariando tudo o que costuma ser dito sobre quem é plus size ou não atende aos padrões impostos pela mídia, por exemplo.

Ela compartilha fotos de biquíni e sem nenhuma vergonha de suas medidas, além de falar abertamente sobre sexualidade em suas publicações – algo que, segundo ela disse ao Daily Mail, costuma ser um tabu para pessoas plus size.

A few weeks ago, I realized my bum no longer fits in regular panties. With my belly and waist to hips and bum ratio, there’s just none that fit comfortably. So, this prompted me to sift through all my clothes, and disappointingly, I found most of my clothes from a year ago, don’t fit any more. I looked in the mirror, and instead of thinking, “Look how saggy your arms are now. Look how pouchy your belly has gotten. Look at your hair thinning.” I thought, “Look how much brighter your eyes are now. Look at how wide your smile is. Look how much stronger your body has become. Look at you still standing after all the challenges you’ve faced and obstacles you’ve overcome!” We’ve all been taught that beauty is pain. Well, I’m here to tell you, it’s not! Beauty is confidence and comfort and happiness. Beauty is whatever makes you FEEL good! Why waste time fretting over clothes that don’t fit, when you could donate those, and go get yourself some swanky new outfits? If you don’t feel like painting your face, then don’t do it! Makeup is totally awesome and fun, but you aren’t required to wear it every time you leave the house. Don’t have a toned tummy, but you want to wear a body con dress? Go ahead! Nothing about your body is shameful, and you deserve to celebrate it in whatever clothing makes you feel sexy. Have a flat booty, but you want to wear leggings? Strut your stuff, baby! You don’t have to do a million squats just to fit in. You are perfectly beautiful and worthy exactly as you are right now! I am no longer worried about buying jeans in a size 20 rather than a 12. Because size is arbitrary. That little number means absolutely nothing. I am not the number on my clothes or the number on the scale. I am beautifully, unapologetically me. (Lingerie set by @adoreme)

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Ela também comentou que, ao contrário do que podem pensar, essas pessoas não transam de luzes apagadas ou semi-vestidas, nem que transam apenas por questões de fetiche, e que as fotos publicadas a ajudaram com a autoaceitação.

“Ao tirar selfies ou dormir nua, amadureci o suficiente para compartilhar a minha nudez com os outros”, contou ela ao mesmo site.

Disclaimer: This is not meant to insult anyone who has done the following, but rather to plant a seed of thought from a different perspective. I’ve noticed an influx of trends in the body positive community like the side-by-side photos of someone sucked in and posed vs hunched over, squeezing at their bellies. There’s also the #antiselfie/#majesticsealselfie where one is the typical well lit, angled, above shot of someone’s face and the other is from below with an exaggerated “double chin”. I understand the purpose is to show, “Hey, no one’s perfect.” and I respect that intention, but it may be strengthening the idea of comparison. It pushes perfection vs imperfection rather than universal acceptance. To those who don’t hold the same privilege as you, it perpetuates a narrative of how normative bodies are “better”. For someone with an ED, it might subconsciously intensify the fear of fat and non normalized bodies. For the people who naturally look like you do in the “imperfect” photo, it can cause guilt and shame. Not all of us look drastically different by changing our position or angle. Some of us have rolls not matter how we stand or sit. Some of us have cellulite without squeezing or slouching. Hence, these images sometimes unintentionally stigmatize fatness by reinforcing the idea of fat being bad, without even meaning to. Discussing one’s body without using comparison or contortions can be a lot more productive in dismantling fatphobia as a whole. If you are one of the folks participating in these trends, take a second to reevaluate why one picture is perfect and the other is imperfect. Please consider that while these photos are meant to help, they may be adding to the problem in some cases. Think about what message it’s sending out about fatness. I do not mean this post to target any one. I understand their merit in exposing how photoshopped, posed, and often fake images can be in the media, and I recognize that they do help some people. I just want to present an idea some may not have thought about yet. If we are uplifting one group at the expense of others, is it really uplifting at all?

Uma publicação compartilhada por Cheyenne (@goofy_ginger) em

“Nossos corpos têm capacidades incríveis para dar e receber prazer, e não importa a gordura, você merece desfrutar desse prazer”, finalizou.

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